A few days ago, I had my long-awaited appointment to sort out some constant pains in my lower left abdomen / pelvis / side area. I had been waiting for this appointment for almost a full year and I was extremely nervous but grateful to finally get this pain sorted out.
Unfortunately, I was apparently more optimistic than I should have been.
Not only did the specialist seem excessively rushed, but he seemed to think there was absolutely no reason I should have been in there to see him. Now don’t get me wrong – he was certainly pleasant enough. He was all smiles and ‘Hi how are you’ but also made it obvious he wanted to get through this appointment as quick as possible.
He dismissed my concerns about Endometriosis saying that I’ve already been cured since they removed everything already and that he wasn’t sure why I even needed a PAP smear since he removed my cervix already, but he’d do a vault smear to ‘make me feel better’. (Umm.. why have I been getting them done with my GP then? Why do I still get in the ‘it’s time for your pap smear test’ sheets?)
So after a lot of pain, and some bleeding I was left with a sheet for bloodwork (just to ‘make me feel better’) and a lot of disappointment. I was told maybe I should just try Midol or Aleve if I get too sore…
I have no idea how the medical system works in other places – but here in Ontario it seems to be so incredibly difficult to be taken seriously as a woman who is dealing with chronic pain. And now with this year long wait for absolutely no gained ground on getting things figured out – I’m back at the starting line.
Endometriosis was ‘the devil I knew’. Sure, I wasn’t looking forward to dealing with that whole tangled affair again – but I at least knew what it was! I’d had it before, and I have been doing research on it. I felt like I could at least tackle having the painful condition because I knew enough about it. It was a far less ‘scary’ reality to swallow.
Instead, I have a hundred unanswered questions, and more things ruled out then even suggested.
Severe Diverticular Disease and some IBS is a confirmed diagnosis, but it’s apparently involving the right ascending colon – which means that this lower left pain shouldn’t be involved at all. Does it mean that this has still been the problem all along and it’s just really effecting the wrong side for some wonky reason? I mean… heck I’m practically Frankenstein at this point with how my insides are likely all rearranged – is this a real possibility?
Is it something else that I now need to worry about? The pain definitely is showing no signs of going away. Heat pads are still my friend and sometimes the sharp stabbing pains nearly double me over.
Or is this just… life now?
With how our health system is – getting any sort of diagnosis takes multiple months if not years. I can spend a lot of time waiting for these tests and results to come back only to have the same crushing disappointment if nothing comes of it. Or worse… it gets massively bad and does so much damage while waiting for someone to find the answer.
Where do I go from here?
There is a certain defeat that comes from living in the shadow of an illness that you can’t name or can’t treat. Especially if the pain involved isn’t obvious to the naked eye. The term ‘invisible illness’ is very accurate because it’s so hard to quantify it as real to someone who can’t feel your discomfort. If there is no red flag markers or visible sign that something’s wrong… it’s far too easy for people to simply chalk your pain up to delusion or over exaggeration. It’s way too easy for them to wave off as unimportant or not their area to fix.
I plan on waiting for the bloodwork results to come back and then I suppose I’ll have to call my family doctor. I’ll just have to ask her what she suggests I do and how I should go about this consistent pain. And of course, I’ll just keep relying on my heat pads and living with the ache and pinching that keeps happening inside my lower stomach. In all honesty, I’m unfortunately getting used to it. It lives with me like my Chronic Migraines and I’m starting to think that’s quite an unhealthy coping mechanism.
The worst part is I -know- there are plenty of other people dealing with this in Ontario! (And likely in lots of other places) And although I focus more on women dealing with the dismissal of painful symptoms, I know some men deal with that too. I think it’s just often times more accepted practice that when a woman is sore to just sort of… ignore it. Then again perhaps I’m just basing that on a lot of my own personal experiences over the years.
Either way, one has only two options in this case. Give up. Start over.
I’m not about to give up. So I guess it just means I’ll have to start again…